3 Common Myths that Keep You from Healing

Did you know that what you believe can directly impact your ability to heal?


Research has proven that words are powerful and what you believe can set your body up to heal or to start breaking down. In the article The Power of Words in Healthcare, Krug states, “Language has a magical influence on the lives we lead, with an impact on our thoughts, emotions, and/or actions. The words we use are one of the most potent ingredients in the science of language. Words have the power to heal, guide and motivate. They can confuse, mislead, and even hurt us.” [1] 


In fact, Bernie Seigel MD has done extensive research in this area and found that cancer patients who were told they had no chance of living defied the odds only when they believed that they still had a chance.[2]  His research and subsequent book
Love, Medicine and Miracles prove that what you believe has the power to help you heal. 


If belief is such a intrinsic part of a person’s healing journey, then we need to bust some myths about your health concerns that could anchor you down in your healing.




Myth: “I won’t get better.”

Truth: Not with that attitude you won’t! For real. Research proves it. Your desire to heal and get better from whatever your health concern is imparative to your actual healing. The body WANTS to be well and is constantly fighting to bring balance and health. Sometimes these bodily responses can be harmful (like long-term inflammation) but when we start working with your body and not against it, it CAN heal. There are countless of miracle stories of people healing when all the doctors in their care plan said otherwise. If you want to heal you can find more healing than if you give up and surrender to a life of dis-ease, illness and pain.


Myth:
“When I find the problem, I’ll get better.”

Truth: There is probably more than one issue going on. Most diseases, illnessness or health concerns are complicated with multiple body systems being imbalanced which causes the condition. You may get a diagnosis from your doctor which leads to a medication, but you’ve only masked your real problem. Getting to the root cause is what can actually set your body up for healing and that is a holistic and whole-life task. You CAN get better, but if you’re expecting a quick fix as this myth implies, you will be disappointed. Taking care of your body needs to become a value in your life because you are worth it! 


Myth: “People don’t care.”

Truth: Some people don’t care. Cut ties with them. Most people do care but don’t know how to communicate their care. Especially if you deal with a chronic concern, your friends and family probably don’t know how to show they care. Many people wish or hope for healing because you being in pain or discomfort is uncomfortable for them. It’s hard to watch the ones we care about suffer! Practitioners or doctors also care, but in the traditional medical system they are trained to see your body and medicine in a particular way. A practitioner can only help you with the tools in their tool belt and some of them may not have the right tools which comes across as them no caring when the strategy they want to use doesn’t work. People care and you need to start to believe that you matter. And matter enough to surround yourself with those who care: friends, family, support groups, and practitioners who really listen.


What other myths do you believe? I would suggest talking with a trusted friend or family member. Sometimes the myths we think feel so real that we can’t recognize them for what they are. What you believe about your healing matters and can set your trajectory for the life you want. 


If you need someone who will really listen give me a try. I’ve experienced my own healing journey and understand the pain of searching for answers. Schedule a
Health Discovery Session to share with me your concerns. I’ll really listen and share what tools I use to help find the root cause and build a healing plan that will work. 


Resources:

  1. Krug, S. (2018). The Power of Words in Healthcare: A Patient-Friendly Lexicon. Society for Participatory Medicine. Retrieved from: https://participatorymedicine.org/epatients/2018/01/the-power-of-words-in-healthcare-a-patient-friendly-lexicon-top-10-list-wordsdomatter-project.html

SIEGEL, B. E. R. N. I. E. (2014). Love, medicine and miracles. MEHTA PUBLISHING HOUSE.

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